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ArthurFrDent
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not ONLY this, but a beginning... that's why I will never understand people breakin' up the band over it. If you find that you have some overlapping interests, what OTHER interests do you have to share, and how DO you react when you hear that their car got totalled in a hailstorm, and so forth. This happens in every fandom, regardless if it's the Greenbay Packers or the Literary Readers of Stephen Hawking's works {<-this is a joke... I think?} I can hardly wait until they pull Kev in on this... I hope he comports himself well. Maybe by knowing astonishing things about the both of them they never expected. It might even creep them out. 
"well, I know Nina can belch the Lithuanian National Anthem... and Paola has a crush on garden gnomes..." gloriously evil. |
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nhat
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What's even worse are people who only talks about sports, especially football. That's all they talk about and nothing else....
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penguintruth
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A self-delusion. We end up wasting a lot of time pretending to care about trivialities in friendships, like birthdays, favorite colors, siblings, etc. Obviously what makes us friends with another person is common interest, we should accentuate our similarities, instead of sabatoging our relationships with others with all the padding. Now, if all you have in common with a person is a single interest, your relationship might not be all that great. But learning the other person's third favorite thing to wear on a summer day isn't going to strengthen your friendship. Nobody cares about those things and it's arrogant to think they do. |
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ArthurFrDent
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ah hot-spring penguin, you forget that the shared interest is also each other... that can be the difference between friend and acquaintance.
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Mohawk52
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Ah, but in all fairness, what does Paola know about Nina? When did Paola mention to Nina that she had a little bro.? it was news to me as well. It's true that you can never know everything about a person, even if you have shared your adult life with them, and even childhood friends can have secrets. Friends and family share information, and stories of their past, but only the ones they want to.
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Maryohki
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Props to Paola for loving Nodame Cantabile, but I have to disagree with her about the voice casting. Nodame has some of my favorite Japanese voice work ;__;.
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Youkai Warrior
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That is true, but not always. Yes, some people, anime fans and non-anime fans seem to have this problem, but not everyone. In fact, hobbies and interests are usually what trigger that closeness. Once you know what people like, it ends up becoming easier to know more about them. I even had non anime friends in high school, and we all got along just fine. We had other interests that we shared, and did lots of things together. I do have one other friend who likes anime, but we hardly ever talk about anime. Actually, she tells me alot about her family. That's sharing something. Maybe some of you have just been friends with the wrong people. You'll find better ones and build lasting relationships.
It also takes time for some people. I'm actually a very shy person. Because of my shyness, when I meet someone, I don't talk much about myself. However I let them talk about themselves. I know it seems unfair, I'm getting to know them, but they're not getting to me, that's what severe shyness/near anti-socialness can do. What I'm tring to say is, some people won't say much about themselves because they are shy. |
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DomFortress
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Zac
ANN Executive Editor
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thanks for this professor I'll go back to actually giving a sh*t about my friends' lives and having stronger relationships as a result |
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belvadeer
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Isn't it sad when you don't really know your friend?
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Viga_of_stars
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Sadly, I think in college most of my friendships were that way. Luckily I have a group of friends that I had forever. It's much different.
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joshuafer
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Another funny one, thanks !
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writerpatrick
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It's hard to develop a friendship without any common interests. Interests are key to the development of a friendship but it takes more than that for a friendship to last. Often it starts with one interest, then more common interests are discovered. Eventually people reach a point when they can talk about anything.
It's also worth noting that friendship isn't a black and white thing. It really runs through levels. Not everyone is a best friend. There are people whom one works with which might be just acquaintances. And there are people who may belong to the same club who are really only interested in one or two things but don't meet outside the club. Most online groups like forums and newsgroups work that way. But one should be careful not to mistake a casual friendship for something more serious. |
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Kingakuzutto
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LOL I have the same problem with a friend of mine. I don't know anything about him that's not related to anime or manga.
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Ktimene's Lover
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With my off the wall antics and obsessive anime watching habits, it's not too hard to see why people would find it hard to befriend me.
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