Forum - View topicNEWS: Voice Actress Chiharu Kitaoka Announces Marriage, Plans Move to Hokkaido
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TarsTarkas
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.....fights a lot with new husband.
.....moving far away (probably away from family and friends). .....stopping all work, that she is not contractually on the hook for. not a recipe for a happy life...... |
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Hoppy800
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I smell a possessive husband, and sense domestic violence on the horizon, not good, bail out lady while you still can. All I'm seeing are red flags and the fact that this could very well be a hospital marriage (marrying someone who took care of you at the hospital usually but not always a doctor or nurse).
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jojothepunisher
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Well, at least she looks gorgeous in that photo.
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Sparvid
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Moving to Hokkaido while continuing doing voice acting presumably mostly recorded in Tokyo doesn't sound very practical.
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Mr. Oshawott
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I have an ominous feeling of that Chiharu's husband may have a grim history of possessiveness and violence... I don't see this marriage ending well...[/quote] |
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SWAnimefan
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Surprised to see many having the same thoughts, usually everyone is happy for marriage announcements.
I really hope the best for the couple and they have a long and happy relationship with each other. |
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TarsTarkas
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Usually we are. But she had to include that negative comment about her new husband. Then all her other comments about moving far away and quitting work, became rising flags on the controlling husband train. Moving far away becomes the husband removing all her support groups and isolating her. Quitting her job becomes more of the above, and making her completely dependent on her husband. I hope you are right, but right now it seems like she marked all the boxes on the abusive husband checklist. |
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archyteckie08
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You are reading too much into a badly translated message. It seems as if ANN used Google Translate and didn't know much of her background. This actress is from Hokkaido. So her moving there, is essentially her going back home to be around her family. She also mentioned that she's been so busy with her surgery, in a stage play, and jumping to and from various things that she didn't announce her marriage before hand. From the pictures, it look like her wedding was done on a fly. It's so simple looking (she does mentions she was going for that "home-made" look) that she probably did have much time to plan it. Generally when voice actresses marry, they are essentially retiring from the industry. She speaks about doing plays as a future possibility or just being open for whatever opportunities come along. She doesn't sound like she's really hyped to be doing more voice work. I can't blame her. Being a voice actor is such a grind. The pay isn't very good ( around $100 - $400 per episode) and the career for a female voice actress is extremely short ( extremely rare to be a voice actress working pass 35). The biggest voice actors are generally men, who make most of their money from non-anime projects; hosting a radio/web show, doing stage performances, live "meet and greet" events (otome games have tons of these), selling their music cds, doing magazine photo shots, audio dramas, selling picture books, doing voice over work for commercials, and etc. This actress is considered to be a "3rd rate" voice actress in Japan. So I don't think she'll lose much by getting married (which is the death knell for many actresses' career) or leaving the business altogether (probably easier to find less stressful opportunities in her home town). Hokkaido is slower paced than Tokyo. It's also vastly cheaper to live in. Sapporo, one of the cities in Hokkaido, is a major tourist destination. So a lot of plays opportunities are there. So this could be what she's hinting too (in terms of future work). The "fight a lot" is viewed differently overseas.Creating harmony through conflict is a very "yin yang" Buddhist belief that has become embedded in Asian cultures. This means relationship success isn't avoiding conflicts but being able to harmoniously resolve them. So in Japanese/Chinese cultures "couples quarreling" is a sign of a passionate love affair; a lot of Asian dramas feature happily marriage couples who quarrel frequently. Couples who never fight, are believed to not love each other. In fact, Asian men (who are very confident in themselves) prefer women who are a bit argumentative over docile ones; which they believe pushes them to be a "better man" and spice up marriage life. Also "good quarreling" doesn't mean a screaming match, name calling, or a physical alteration; which is definitively negative in Asian culture. "Disappointing Husband" (残念な夫) a Japanese drama and "Perfect Couple" (金玉良缘) a Chinese drama are two shows that demonstrate what Asians consider "good quarreling." A western example of that dynamic is Lucy / Ricky from "I Love Lucy." So basically Asians don't really have the "He's so perfect that we never fight" mentality like a lot of Americans do. So her statement isn't a sign of spousal abuse but more of "I know marriage can be difficult. Obviously with two people there will be a lot of quarrels, but we will work hard to resolve our difference to make a happy home." |
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TarsTarkas
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Well, your additional information does spin things back a bit. Hope that is the case.
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Mr. Oshawott
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@archyteckie08
Thanks for the info.  It seems that I've made a mountain out of a molehill on the "fight a lot" bit, in which I express my sincere apologies to Ms. Kitaoka-san. 
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Hoppy800
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Ah, so differences in cultures caused our misunderstandings, thanks for the information.
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kinghumanity
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Does a metal ring on a finger somehow prevent a voice actress from working? Or is this more of the societal stigma against working married women in Japan?
I have a hard time accepting the idea that "getting married = quit your job" for women. |
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enurtsol
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7 out of 10 working Japanese women quit their careers when starting a family. This explains more. |
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